Time to Give Up

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21
Sep 2019

Time to Give Up

Hi EveryOne,

Happy Spring – the period after retreating for the winter spell is a perfect time to do a spring clean – a perfect time to give up, let go, release, surrender, what no longer serves our highest purpose. I’ve been a bit quiet on here as I transition between moving my practices from public to home-based, simultaneously expanding my wellbeing programs (including hypnotherapy and wellness guidance) classes, retreats and workshops etc.  There have been several bumps in the road – and though it hasn’t stopped me my body has slowed me down a tad – a timely reminder once again on being unbalanced in being and doing :):) So  I’ve chosen 15  out of 30 ‘things to give up’ that have helped me return to equilibrium. They are in no particular order but I do hope they help simplify and un-complicate your life.

First…  I will be facilitating another couple of retreats in Leura, Blue Mountains in October…

Time to Give Up …

  1. Give up your need to control – Our Power to Tolerate reminds us that the only thing in life we can control is our own attitude and responses to life. We can’t control how others behave – what they do or don’t do, what they say or don’t say – so let it go of that unnecessary stress.
  2. Give up self-defeating talk – No matter how good your intention, if you engage in self-defeating dialogue, you will sabotage all your hard work and reinforce old self-defeating patterns.
  3. Give up on blame – Your happiness, confidence and self esteem have nothing to do with others. Don’t point the finger of blame elsewhere for your lot in life – instead change the way you view any situation (give up your limiting beliefs). True happiness starts within. Time to change the filter of your inner lens.
  4. Give up complaining / negativity – A  problem is only a problem when you call it a problem.  Stop focusing on what others are doing or not doing. And stop focusing on what you don’t have or on what you can’t do.  Start paying attention to the wonder of life.  Check and Change yourself regularly so you can appreciate life and keep moving forward.
  5. Give up excuses – We can all find 101 ‘reasons’ why we ‘should or shouldn’t do something’. Use your Power to Face to help you give up irrational fear, that drives excuses and keeps you stuck.
  6. Give up your resistance to change – Change is the only constant in life. Learn to flow with rather than fight against, the rip of life. For the pain we feel is often due to our own resistance to change.
  7. Give up labels – Remember you are a Soul and that others are Souls – each playing your unique roles. You are not this body made of matter, nor the clothes you wear or the things you do or do not have. Don’t identify yourself with such physical limitations.
  8. Give up attachment – Attachment keeps us dependant which keeps us firmly stuck in unwanted situations. Practice Appreciation (attitude of gratitude).  Enjoy the benefit of using what you have / can do today – so there’s no guilt in pleasure nor is there greed for more, or fear of losing it. Just simply in the moment 🙂
  9. Give up expectation – Don’t expect others to know what you need and don’t be driven by the expectation of others. You are responsible for your happiness, they are responsible for theirs.
  10. Give up on judgement – Judgement stems from lack of understanding and fear. Give up fear by informing and educating yourself and you won’t ever feel the need to judge (yourself or another) 🙂
  11. Give up people-pleasing – Saying yes to others just to please them (or worse, because you can’t say no) serves no-one – you won’t help them and you certainly won’t help yourself. Time to bring in Spiritual Self-Care.
  12. Give up the need to rescue others – When you deny or ignore your own healing journey, you will project onto others that which you choose not to see in yourself. Rescuing or ‘saving’ others distracts us so we don’t have to face our own shortcomings. But you know what?..  Be courageous and determined – and turn inward – and heal yourself instead. YOU are WORTH it!
  13. Give up comparison / competing – Comparing yourself to others and competing with others feeds insecurity and low self worth. You will swing between feeling superior or inferior – not an ideal balance. Change the way you think (negative to positive) to help you give up comparing and competing. And watch life open up and blossom 🙂
  14. Give up Self pity / Self-Victimisation – You are the Creator of your own story. Don’t make yourself a victim in it. Instead, rise above it and take the reins back with loving self respect. For this is not to minimise past experience, but to not let it define you either (minimise your true worth). But to learn to master your own mind and emotions so that others won’t be able to.
  15. Give up seeking validation – When you look to others for validation (seek their approval) you give them permission to dictate the terms – not an enriching position to place yourself in. Set your own firm but loving boundaries – don’t wait for others to set them for you (for they will, given half a chance).

Question: What things do I need to give up to help me let go and move forward?

Consideration: What’s stopping me today, from letting go? What other things may I need to give up to make this a reality?

Action: 1, Breathe and Release… Breathe and Release… Breathe and Release… And then – Breathe and Release some more…  2. Write a Gratitude Journal – just 3 things each day that you are grateful for on that day.  3. Practice mindfulness throughout your day to ‘Check and Change’ your thoughts > to ‘Check and Change’ your attitude > which automatically ‘Checks and Changes’ your LIFE for the better!!

Lots of love Annemarie

Happy Practicing and remember…  Don’t fight the process – enjoy it!

 

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