WonderFull Living Newsletter – 13th May 2013

Positive and Negative are Equal in Power – it’s a Matter of Choice!…

When I speak with others about ‘self empowerment’, one question in particular comes up frequently “why is life so complicated?” With all the modern conveniences at the push of a button we can be forgiven for buying into distorted conditioning – that everything in the world is ‘moving forward’. Sadly with so-called progression one major thing we tend to overlook is the growing lack of presence and mindfulness. This absence of self awareness weakens our self motivation, our self discipline and our self respect – we lose respect for others and others lose respect for us – an instant recipe for complications and chaos. We allow ourselves to get caught up in our daily dramas, while many cues and warning signals go un-noticed or simply ignored. Not paying attention to our own attitude – our thoughts, words and actions – we miss opportunities so we react and retaliate in destructive ways. Perhaps too busy justifying our own behavior or pointing the finger elsewhere, we don’t allow ourselves the space to contemplate what I might be contributing to the situation.

Whether I am ‘unconscious’ or whether I am compelled (against my own will) I can create complications very quickly – even if I don’t subscribe to it. Misunderstandings, miscommunications, misinterpretations are often the first telltales which are mostly ignored, this is usually followed by blame, doubt, denial, judgements, insecurities and pettiness. When we are not present or ‘conscious’, we can easily take things out of context and take it personally, unable to control ourselves we lose our sense of humor and we react. Too busy being ‘upset’, we become completely ignorant to how our own attitude might be affecting others. Agitated or pointing the finger we behave in a destructive manner toward ourselves and those around us. Believing it’s ‘normal’ to react we don’t even question it, we stop making effort and we stop looking within for ways to change it – while we wait for others to change first…

Action always starts with a thought – conscious or unconscious – thoughts are the seeds and actions are the fruit! Both negative and positive thoughts (seeds) are equal in power and velocity, yielding equal results… The complications of eating unripe fruit for example, or the simplicity and ease of receiving succulent fruit in abundance… If I am the Master Creator of my own thoughts, it stands to reason that I only want to plant seeds of positivity! Positivity is not the same as optimism. Optimism only wants to see a good outcome (often being unprepared when things don’t turn out as planned). Positivity works with reality – it sees the benefit in all situations and seeks a positive outcome for all concerned. Positivity allows a breathing space between each of my thoughts, and a breathing space between myself, others and situations – any negativity I face, I can transform or I can let it bounce off. Unfortunately for most, the power within remains dormant – unaware of their amazing hidden ability, or choosing to deny it – we continue to blame others for our misfortunes and continue to create more complications.

Choosing to be positive takes courage, it means to be present – not reliving the past or worrying about the future. Consciousness is needed to confront and overcome the negative – it’s a skill that takes practice, practice and more practice – don’t give up, you never know how close you are. Any situation can become inflamed very quickly with negativity or it can be cooled down easier with positivity. Knowing I have the power to choose which seeds I wish to grow, puts the reins of life back in my own hands. People often complain about the difficulties in their life forgetting that change is a process, lacking consistency in their own efforts they battle with their negative beliefs and soon quit – choosing to conform to negativity rather than to reform to positivity.

When you awaken and nourish the positive power within – bestowing all your attention on your own worth – the negative thoughts and beliefs begin to starve and disintegrate over a period of time, but consistency is definitely needed. This allows your mind to strengthen the positive and get on with what it does best – Create!… You know, every single action that you take with a positive approach collects a wonderful blessing, this is such a fortune, but this fortune gets cancelled out when you behave negative elsewhere. To keep accumulating this ‘capital’ I must be consistent in my aim to remain uplifted. I can embrace opportunities to be positive, for example. Transforming a negative situation into a positive one by keeping a light-hearted approach – this is where you collect a double blessing because the key is to ‘catch’ the negative at the thought level – before it turns into action. In time you will no longer carry the burden of a negative situation, instead you will be able to turn it around and everyone will benefit – if they choose to!

Question: Where do I contribute to complications in my life? Why?

Consideration: Why do I focus on the negative instead of focusing on the positive?

Action: S.O.S = Step Back; Observe; Steer; Each time you catch yourself being negative or destructive, or feel yourself getting sucked into someone else’s negativity or destructive behavior – apply a firm brake as you would with a red light. Step back from the situation for a few moments (allow a bit of space). Become the Observer – to SEE what’s really going on. Use this opportunity to check and change your own thoughts, emotions or judgements, breathe and let them go instantly – this helps us become more ‘conscious’. Then Steer your attitude – choosing to consciously respond or to consciously step away is very powerful and will benefit everyone.

Be very careful what you wish for, be very careful what seeds you plant and be careful which seeds you choose to nourish. Negative vibration creates heat, can you feel the world heating up? Positive vibration creates a cooling effect – it won’t just benefit you it will benefit many others :)… Remember, positivity ignites your sense of humor and generosity.
Love as always, Annemarie