Power to be Generous – Part 2…

Hi everyone,

How are you going so far with this amazing Power?… Remembering that I am Master of my inner Power – my strengths and my specialities – keeps me wanting to inject more and more effort into my daily practice. This practice keeps me constant, genuine and generous – not just sometimes when it suits me, but consistently, regardless of what is happening.

When applied, Generosity gives me the ability to be genuine in all my relationships – including the one with myself.  To give genuine kindness (being generous) to the self is an act of love, though not always easy in practice. However, when I love myself, loving others becomes easier and automatic – without them necessarily having to love me back! This generosity is the best kind because everyone wins – with no strings attached, it’s unconditional and free of expectation. This act of kindness demonstrates non-violence as a way of life – a space where we don’t need to pretend any more, a space where we are not compelled to withhold our love for any reason, where we stop hiding our feelings and hoarding our emotions, where we stop competing and comparing and blaming and complaining, and where we let go of the bondage of guilt. It’s a place where I can constantly be content with myself and with the world – what a wonderful platform to live life from – or at the very least, I can make this my daily aim.

However, as Generosity is also the ability to look past imperfections, I’ve been somewhat challenged by this Power.  One of the hardest things to do for perfectionists is to deal with imperfection… Perfectionists will always find a ‘flaw’ in the system, in the plan, in the dream, in the home, in the relationship, in the workplace, in others and worst of all, in themselves. Perfectionists are often so busy trying to become ‘perfect’ that they aren’t aware of or simply ignore their inner struggle with low self worth. Not feeling ‘good enough’ comes with a distorted view of the world. Not being generous and kind to myself, I allowed the “Impostor Syndrome” to creep in again. Allowing the opinions of others to become self criticism – inflaming irrational emotions and leading to self doubt and thoughts of fraud, is an easy way to become empty – I had to apply a full stop and recenter (Powers to Pack Up and to Withdraw). Not paying attention, I revisited that terrible place where I used to beat myself up – no valid reason ever exists for self beating.  By applying other Powers, I was able to forgive myself and restore self love and generosity. Understanding it was just old stuff re-surfacing to test my progress, I saw an opportunity to transform old disempowering behavior. I was able to let go (Power to Detach) and took another chance to step up and step out (Power to Face).

Questions to churn on:

— Am I kind to everyone or only to those who are kind to me?

— How do I respond to those who I see as better/worse than me?

— Do I treat others the way I like to be treated or do I treat others better/worse?

Tip: To be Generous means to have the Power to Tolerate under your command. Tolerance is to know and accept what you can and can’t control… It means I treat others equally to myself (not better or worse 🙂

Have a great week everyone – love as always, Annemarie xx