Power to Judge – Part 2…

Hi everyone, firstly I would like to welcome all those who have joined us in the past fortnight, glad to have you aboard – feel free to ask any questions. If you’re comfortable, I would love to hear your experiences of applying this Power (by Thursday 22nd, so I can compile all your stories – in a nutshell – and share them with everyone, don’t worry, stories remain anonymous).

So, how is the Power to Judge working for those who have been part of this amazingly honest and courageous community from the beginning – would love to hear how you’re strengthening this Power.

Here’s my experience so far – I have several stories but just sharing the most recent and most profound for me…

When I remember to see the opportunities to apply this power, it reminds me of the magic that it is. The more I am able to judge the accuracy of my own thoughts, words and actions the less I judge the behavior of others and even lesser do I get caught up with their behavior – leaving me free to be light and easy in my life.

I had an interesting experience at one of the talks I presented this week. The person in charge of the program on the day became upset with me in front of all the guests as she believed I had gone over time. Like the guests, I was stunned and had to quickly ‘check’ myself and use my Power to Judge, so not to judge her behavior but to judge my own reactions. In fact, I had to use several Powers simultaneously to remain in control – as the old ‘not good enough’ stuff came rushing to the surface. Initially I felt myself reacting by experiencing confusion and discomfort, which quickly turned to embarrassment then guilt then anger – all within a few seconds – wow! Fortunately I recognised the test-paper so was able to quickly turn it around. By using my Power to Withdraw – just for a second, to allow myself to be the observer – gave me an opportunity to breathe and assess the situation. Using my Power to Pack Up, I was able to let go of any reactive judgements and therefore not take it personal. I had to use my Power to Forgive myself for having the thought – “geeh, I’m giving my time for free, driven all the way from Townsville, and now driving all over Sunshine Coast for these talks – SO WHAT if I did go a little over time”.

After quickly checking and changing myself, I managed to calmly say that the program went for 90 minutes (she thought it only went for 60). I checked with the guests to make sure I didn’t keep them any longer than they expected to be there – they confirmed back to me that it was indeed 90 minutes. She left quietly and came back later to apologise – with several justifications attached to it – I smiled and said, “never mind”. Later I thought to make a complaint but decided it was wasteful so let it go.

Questions to churn on today:

— Where in my life can I use the Power to Judge – am I actually doing this or am I judging others?… Often when we are in denial of our own ‘stuff’ we judge others.

— Do I shy away from opportunities to practice my Powers or do I embrace them?

— How might I use good Judgement to remain light and easy?…

Lesson: Clear Judgement allows everyone to learn and grow from potentially heated situations – if we choose to 🙂

love as always, Annemarie xx