Power to Choose – Part 3…

Hi EveryOne,

To finish this months amazing Power to Choose – I wanted to share something with you that I shared in a couple of classes this week… Many believe that they have no choice when it comes to living with and/or hanging around negative people – often falling victim to their own stories…. I commonly hear people say ‘but he’s my husband / she’s my wife / my son / my daughter etc – I don’t have a choice’…. We do have choice – that’s not to say that all choices are easy (some are incredibly difficult) but that we do always have choice!… Keeping in my mind that those in my life are there because I either want them to be or because I don’t have the strength or courage to move away from them – but that I’m still making a choice – even on an unconscious level. You see, many would rather forfeit their Power to Choose in favour of being seen as the ‘bad guy’ – only reinforcing a destroyed and destructive belief that they have no choice.

You see, if others aren’t interested in changing themselves – you can only lift them up for a short time before they start weighing you down. It’s hardly possible to be around negative people (no matter who they are) and expect to live a positive life – unless you are confident in your ability to stay positive and beyond their influence – without diminishing your own value even slightly. The company I keep, like many other things in life – is a choice – I can’t change others but I can change myself… All I can do is plant the seed of positivity with them – the rest is up to them – they can choose to harvest this seed or not… Then it’s up to me to remain assertive (not aggressive) in my own Self Respect. I can stay or I can leave, but I can no longer say I have no choice and therefore I am no longer a victim 🙂

Here are your amazing contributions – I feel so blessed that you each share such courageous stories with me – thank you 🙂

Many loved this Power and found it rather timely in their life – recognising they did exactly that – CHOOSE!………………. (Wonderful 🙂

Some were considering the ‘actors playing on stage’ concept and found it helped them in making choices…. Someone even remembers writing a play back in high school based exactly on this idea………….. (Wow, amazing – thank you so much for sharing)

Recognised that ‘miracles and magic is my birthright’ and saw the power in their choices by realising they are ‘Masters of our own destiny & co-creators’ …………….. (This is soooo beautiful!)

Some still find this Power rather ‘scary’ and ‘daunting’ – because it comes with taking responsibility for whatever they choose but did it anyway …………… (Wonderful recognition and so brave!)

Understanding that ‘to do nothing or to do something’ is still a choice………… (Fantastic!)

Choosing to ‘step aside in powerful way with Power of Silence’ towards a loved one, while still ‘sending good wishes and blessings’ ‘paid off in a wonderful way – while ‘learning some things about myself in the process’………………….. (Not reinforcing the bad behaviour of others (no matter who they are) while still loving them regardless is not an easy choice but oh so powerful, congratulations and Well DONE!!!!!:)

Some chose to practice this Power – though very difficult – while recognising that it’s easier to make choices before others choose for them…………………… (Wow this is also very powerful. Indeed, if we don’t choose – those around us will choose for us – often at our detriment).

Some found this Power very liberating………………….. (Me too 🙂

Choosing to step out of their comfort zone by following their ‘intuition’ regardless of the fear and uncertainty felt – ended up experiencing some great adventures………… (Wow, such courage – you never cease to amaze me 🙂

Choosing to ‘write a book – to share what they learned on inner self transformation journey’ and understanding that they ‘don’t need to know end result but see power of taking first step’………………………….. (Woohoo – great stuff!!!)

Recognition that the most ‘challenging in choice is in relationships’ while overcoming ‘self sabotage’……..……………. (So wonderful, thank you for sharing – yes, very powerful!)

Many resonated with this Power and see it as a gift…………………… (Me too 🙂

Choosing to ‘not let people get to me – empowering self so the things others do/say don’t upset me’……………………….. (Amazing – keep up the great work)

‘Chose to change work and routine of past 5 years’. ‘Was not happy so chose to stop whinging and stop looking at how others lived their lives.’ All paid off (even with ‘anxiety that often stops me from taking risks’) – just started ‘job with more flexibility and more ‘me’ time’…………………. (Yesss! Congratulations, Congratulations, Congratulations 🙂

Avoiding choices in past for few reasons ‘but strongest reason was I didn’t like commitment’. ‘Decisions meant I had to follow through’ – new wisdom to see that ‘not choosing is a choice in itself and exudes denial’. ‘Denied self experiences and opportunities to go beyond my comfort zone’. ‘Now make bolder choices’ …………………. (So great!)

Acknowledgement of feeling’ jealous of many people many times – friends, family, etc – wish I had done something they had done’…………… (Wow this is a very powerful admission and wonderful transformational tool – well done 🙂

Wow, well done everyone – you’ve each exceeded your own limitations and comfort zones, pats on the back for all, you each deserve it. See you all next week with our next Power 🙂

Love as always, Annemarie x